Tips for a healthy married life

The bond of marriage is regarded as divinely ordained in most religious traditions. As such, it carries with it the promise of God's blessing, and should be full of love and joy.Well Well, in this era of failing marriages and a fast track to divorce, I simply thought of few things that can save your marriage.

This is for those husbands who like to be tyrants.Do not be a Tyrant.Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse.

Being partners in the Decision Making Process helps to bring harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.

Be very careful what you say when you are upset.Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry.

Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.Show interest in your mate's life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other's lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project.

Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family.Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don't take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.

Work Together in the House.Forget Past Problems.Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved.

Simple Living and High Thinking. Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family.

Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.

Give Your Spouse Time Alone.If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin.

Admit Your Mistakes.When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with
each other.

Try to have meals together always.Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts.


Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics.Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn't like you to discuss.

And finally abundance of love brings abundance of patience, for love hopes all things, and suffers all things and faithfulness, that both bend their wits and all their endeavors to the help each of other. Success is sure to embrace you.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should
help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. As Barnett R. Brickner says ''Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.''If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner.